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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • You are right on track.

    Every generation in the past hundred years has lived in a COMPLETELY different world than their parents.

    Right now, your finding your place in the world, and that’s not easy.

    Forgive the video game analogy if that’s not your cup of tea, but: You’ve just finished the tutorial (childhood) and there’s a lot more grinding to do before you should start comparing yourself to the end-game builds.




  • Honestly, if this is something you really want to do, I don’t think it’s a bad idea, but you do need to be careful.

    Don’t make it creepy. Don’t use the word “love”. You did not love her, you had a crush on her. Keep it simple. Keep it friendly.

    Something like “Hey, (something) just reminded me of you, and I wanted to say hi. I don’t know if you ever realized it, but I had a little crush on you in school. Hope your doing well!”

    No romantic poetry, no talk of love or soul mates. You just throw it out there, and let them control the narrative. If they never respond, you never follow up. If you talk as friends, then be friends. If they secretly had a crush on you this whole time and want to get together, congratulations!






  • I’m going back to the first comment I typed this morning.

    Context is important.

    If my child is rooting around in the cleaners under the sink, I will of course intervene because in that situation I am responsible for teaching them that it’s harmful and that they should not drink it.

    If some rando posts in the Internet “I’ve been drinking bleach every day for 20 years, and I’m going to do it again right now.” Who am I to tell him that he shouldn’t do something that’s been working for him for 20 years? Clearly it’s none of my business.

    If some rando posts “If I drink bleach will it cure my COVID?” I will tell them it’s a very bad idea, because they asked for information about it, and that’s what I know.

    It’s all about CONTEXT.