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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • I’m fine with plenty of sex on TV. Game of Thrones seems to have broken the barrier in people’s mind for gratuitous sex and nudity in the mainstream and streaming services have capitalised on not having the same restrictions as terrestrial TV. Sex is an important part of human existence and it’s fine to have it feature heavily in our media. The same rules apply as for anything else in story writing… It must make a point, fit into a narrative and be done well.

    A few media review sources have had good video essays and articles about the fact that:

    1. The most recent generations are really objecting to sex in their media. So tastes are changing. Objectively there is less and less sex in our movies and TV shows.
    2. It is very important to show normal sex as part of a normal story. If this is not maintained, then the only way to see any depiction of sex will be porn, and porn is so warped and far from reality that it really should not be our main depiction of sex.

    If stories are going to be written, then there will inevitably be bad stories and poor implementation too, and we just have to put up with that. I haven’t seen the media you mention… Maybe it was bad, or maybe it wasn’t for you. Either one is fine. If you want to find good shows, you risk watching some bad ones.


  • This works for peas and you don’t need a recipe. Put boiled peas in an air-fryer to crisp them up a bit. Then sprinkle on whatever spices you like. Can add lemon, or sauces or whatever you like. Experiment as you like. Just be careful not to make it unhealthy by drowning it in sauce.

    You could do the same with cutting aubergine into thin slices and making them crisp in an airfryer or oven and making “chips” out of them.




  • I’ve done this to myself. I don’t care less about people. I still want good things for people not matter how far away they might be. But I’ve worked hard to try to accept the difference between my circle of concern and circle of influence. I try to do what I can, and the fact that there is large-scale badness, does not undo my tiny-scale goodness. We can only change what we can.

    Also, it’s important to know that social media and news pour money into making you angry and upset. It is worth taking a step back and limit your exposure to bad sources of news. I’m off all social media (other than Lemmy) and I follow news only via RSS, only via curated feeds and with heavy use of blacklisting phrases. There’s no point in ruminating and being fed the same trash news all the time. Work towards stopping feeling bad and starting doing good.

    This meme I made conveys how I feel about this.



  • There’s a good podcast called Your Parenting Mojo. She also does a parenting workshop called Taming Your Triggers. I’ve never taken the workshop, but the podcast has helped me a lot.

    Essentially, the problem comes when parents have their own unresolved issues that make parents get triggered by children. Also, many times children are seen as an inconvenience to be controlled and silenced. If a parent can see a child as a person whose feelings and needs are valid, then it really changes the perspective and has certainly changed how I parent. The number of times I get annoyed by my children has gone way down (once I’ve actually reflected to deal with getting to the bottom of my own internal issues) and the solutions are now geared towards getting everyone’s needs met.





  • Comics are a completely different medium. This will not make up for poor translations. You’re comparing 2 different things and you need to decide what sort of content you want to publish, then you can plan how to best achieve what you want. In the time it is going to take you to become a good artist, you could use the time to learn English yourself. Decide what you want to achieve first. Translating with comic dialogue translation is going to still be just as much of a problem.




  • You’ll basically be doing self therapy. Worth doing some writing or deep thinking on where this aggression is coming from. Reading or hearing podcasts or watching media on the subject tends to help. I would say this needs thinking about in the “cold state” (i.e. when not in heightened emotion and while completely calm and relaxed, but remembering the last undesirable event). Then you can work incrementally on what you can change next time.

    Here’s an episode from a podcast I like, to get you started:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9WZgqcu3QE

    Or actual audio podcast of you prefer:

    https://podcastindex.org/podcast/453567?episode=33418257763

    Hulking Out! Why You Change When You’re Angry

    When mild-mannered David Banner gets mad he transforms into the raging Incredible Hulk. Dr Laurie Santos loves this comic book tale - because it reflects real life. Intense things like anger, pain, even hunger, can cause us to act in extreme ways that we might not predict beforehand or forgive after.

    (She must have gotten so so so many messages for calling him “David Banner”.)





  • Thats one of many benefits. The content itself is still useful. I’ve long since forgotten my highschool advanced maths content, but I know how to think about rate of change and probabilities and normal distributions, etc. My current job is also science based and I often need to explain things to lay service users. It’s remarkable sometimes how far back to basic concepts I need to go to help them understand. Even colleagues who didn’t learn certain aspects of match or physics up to high school struggle more than necessary.

    I think even the forgotten material has been benefitting you all along.