I feel like everyone here needs a reminder that love bombing is something that happens AFTER mistreatment to make the victim calm down and become compliant.

This isn’t just being overly affectionate, it’s a technique used to manipulate behavior and keep a victim loyal.

Oh pointy birds

Oh pointy pointy

Anoint my head

Anointy nointy

-Steve Martin

Whether or not other artists deserve more attention is kind of beside the point. The point is that people are complicated and multifaceted and both good and bad things can come out of a person. None of us are all one thing.

Clearly JK created something that was loved around the world, but clearly she also doesn’t know how to coexist and empathize beyond her prejudices. The bad thing didn’t erase the good thing from existence, but it certainly complicates our relationship with it.

Yeah, well we aren’t talking about Brazil. My state is all paper. There are multiple audits and there are public observers at every stage. The shit would hit the fan if it was even one ballot off. It’s a super transparent and auditable system.

Can someone explain to a Gen x guy what “listening data” gets me? I’ve been living off a folder of mp3s for 30 years. Does this use my music? Does this get it from the Internet somewhere? How is it different from asking Alexa to play music for me? Thanks.

Some people, not anyways men, have been taught, rather mercilessly, that they have to be self sufficient. These people get aggravated, even angry when someone else fails to live up to the standard that they (unfairly) were forced to. There can be an instinctive feeling that it is somehow an injustice to them.

That doesn’t excuse abandoning someone in the wilderness. Often these people struggle to learn to be a kind helper.

Also, none of this is meant to excuse the behavior. It is possible to understand “why” without condoning it. When confronting this it is important to be firm that it is unacceptable, as well as understanding that it may be a struggle to relearn.

You could always Dremel it out. First try black electrical tape.

Someone who has been having adult relationships for 15 years is going to be able to convince somebody with 0 years of adult relationships of whatever they want. Whether you feel happy or loved, eventually that power imbalance has a high chance of causing serious problems for you that you couldn’t have seen coming.

Do it if you want, but go into it knowing that you are probably just a toy and probably won’t know until you are set up for a really bad time when you finally see all the things you are currently blind to.

If you need an analogy, think about having a cooking competition between a beginner and a 15 year professional. The beginner probably has no idea how hard they are about to get smoked if they are thinking about their opponent as just another person who likes to cook.

Clearly, they set the speed limits wrong.

I didn’t think this had anything to do with the originals other than the name. I don’t know if that would be good or bad.

I have two homeschooled nieces. Their biggest strength is that they “like to dance”. Honesty, these girls are screwed and the world is going to grind them up as soon as they have to survive on their own.

Let your kids learn from professionals. This is like you expecting to be able to be a good accountant with no training.

Let your kids learn about social pressure and stress with easy kid problems, don’t let their first experiences be as an adult with no coping skills.

Parents overestimate their ability to be a good teacher.

I’ll just leave you with this.

I’ve had a great experience as a Linux noob using Garuda. It comes with an Nvidia version and has worked great out of the box.

There’s a lot of good thoughts here, but don’t forget the effect that rationalization as a coping mechanism has on behavior.

For example if restaurants were so expensive growing up that they never got to go, they have the choice of feeling like they are missing out or rationalizing that what they have is better to stop wanting the things they can’t have.

Later when there are affordable restaurants, they still carry that rationalization with them and may not even realize it. They may actually believe it at this point.

Not saying this is the case with your parents, but this kind of thing happens all the time in every culture.

I started on Bazzite when I switched, and it was ok but never felt quite right. After that I switched to Garuda, which is also designed to be a ready right out of the box experience that is gaming and performance focused.

It is based on Arch, so it is currently being kept up to date and has been extremely reliable. Pretty much every issue has been solved with an update and reboot.

As an aside, everyone always pushes KDE, but I personally love xfce, it’s worth a look.

After I left Bazzite as “my first Linux” I landed on Garuda. It is Arch based, is gaming and performance focused, comes with different desktop environment options, has pacman and works well with pamac, and has been noob friendly.

No ragrets.

Linux noob here. Is this something everyone needs to worry about, or would I know if I had installed this cancer?

I recently got a HIFI Walker and I really like it. They also have full android versions if you want more functionality.

Yeah, the NPC chat feature is an obvious miss on their part. It’s all the other ai in there that’s impressive really. The stuff you didn’t notice enough to complain about.

If you are looking for an alternative, after I left Bazzite I switched to Garuda. Is also gaming and performance focused and has been a dream for me.

Garuda has been easy and stable for me. It’s gaming and performance focused though, so how well that works for you could depend on your laptop.