Fridging is when a love interest gets killed just to push the main character forward. It used to mean a woman getting hurt to make a man act. Now it covers any partner dying to pump up the plot.
Here’s the cold truth. A romantic loss is the only loss that actually justifies losing your head over it. If your boyfriend or girlfriend dies, that grief can spiral into obsession or a need for revenge. That is story fuel. Everything else is background noise.
An uncle, a child, a best friend, a parent, a teammate getting killed is not tragic nor is it enough to be sad and enough to motivate you to be a hero. Those losses might be a little sad but they do not automatically justify turning your life into this crusade against injustice. They are not dramatic enough to demand you drop everything and hunt a killer down.
So yeah, fridging as a device works because romantic love is one of the few things audiences treat as absolute.
Whenever there is a story about a main character who is depressed because their best friend, parent, or child dies, I just can’t get into it, and I’m always like, “Please get over it,” because this isn’t enough to be depressed over, and it’s not enough to want to become a good person.
Um, yes?
Romantic relationships are often not the strongest ones and are also often the ones that last shorter than others.
I know my best friend since we were kids.
I’ve been in romantic relationships with people who I really don’t care for now.
My kids will always be my kids.
Your post and comments seem to indicate that you have never felt any real attachment to someone that goes beyond infatuation.
If you are 15, that’s ok, you’ll experience real friendship in time, and if you have kids you will understand what that means.
If you are 30+ and have kids, you seriously should book an appointment with a good therapist.