Is it normal not to care about your friends, uncle, cousins or anyone? Like, you have friends, but you couldn’t care less about them and don’t value them. If they have kids, you don’t care about their well-being either. Basically could not give less of a fuck about anyone. You don’t care about your friends or family members at all. If they are sick, you don’t care; if they die, you don’t care. Is this normal?

  • djmikeale@feddit.dk
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    2 days ago

    I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.

    So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.

    • BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world
      1·
      12 hours ago

      I feel my current situation matches with what you described, can you share which books helped and what kind of therapist / therapy should you look for

      • djmikeale@feddit.dk
        2·
        8 hours ago

        I tried cognitive behavioural therapy which helped with a bunch of other stuff, but didn’t help me get to the root of my core challenges. I’m with one now which does the following (according to her website):

        Theoretically, I am grounded in the psychodynamic tradition and the neuroaffective understanding of attachment and emotional development.

        I realized the books I’ve read and got a lot out of may only exist in Danish: “Drop opdragelsen” and “derfor forelsker du dig aldrig i den forkerte”