Met this guy on Sunday, he gave me excellent vibes. We hung out again yesterday and ended up at his apartment… I ended up staying the night. Now he’s at work and I’m still here. Woke up feeling like a wife, lol.
I kind of want to make my top comfort food, turmeric chicken noodle soup, for when he gets home. I’ve just been going with the flow, and I’m feeling amazing.
He left you unattended in his apartment? Bold.
Don’t just stay there all day. Go home. Make plans for a third date. That’s weird to just stay there.
Alternate suggestion: skip soup, rob apartment, buy an even better man. /s
Matters if you are 40 or 25.
The older you are, life is to short to delay. But keep your mind open for the sides you don’t know of him yet.
Yup. I was 30 when I met my partner. We met on Tinder. Just meant to fuck a few times and that was it.
Married after 8 months of meeting. Been married over 8 years now.
Agreed.
So long you both are comfortable sharing how your feelings when things arent so hot. Speed blurs red flags!
Nobody can tell you what the right move is but I can tell you what would have worked on me if I was the guy and I had left you at home.
Make the soup and leave it for him on the counter with a note about how you had a great time but sadly had to leave. Let the man miss you and appreciate your gesture at his own pace and on his own.
This is the one, if she’s really into the guy. Maximum allure with a relatively thin chance of coming across as weird and invasive.
Edit: Although I do have to wonder whether he’s objectively worth all that. She’s known him a week.
She’s known him three days, actually.
Oh shit, I didn’t consider how old the post is. Okay, yes, closer to 0 weeks, so days.
Too fast IMO. You’re setting yourself up for a less than ideal situation. The guy is going to come home tired from work to find you there, not even having had the time to take a shit and get cleaned up before beginning to think about wanting to do anything with anyone. Everyone is different for sure, but from a pure practical view you’re overstaying your welcome.
Exception being that if I came home to a woman who wanted to fuck I’d be pretty stoked. Later I might worry about if she was going through my shit or whatever though.
Did you discuss wether you’d stay? Did he just leave without saying anything? I mean if I invited someone in and left the presumption is that they’re invited until I kick them out. As for speed, you do you. Don’t make any decisions you can’t take back, don’t have a child, get married, unprotected sex, don’t share your banking info yet, etc. Other than that, if there’s a problem than you guys can just talk it out. He will let you know if it’s moving too fast for him.
Depends how fast everyone else is going. If I’m the only one on the road, then I’m going the speed limit. Don’t want any cops using me to fill their quotas. If someone zooms by at 15 over the limit, I call them a canary, checking the coal mine for speed traps. If they don’t get pulled over going 75 in a 60, then I can safely go 65.
If there’s a bunch of cars all speeding, then I’ll keep pace with them unless they’re going over 70. At that point it just isn’t worth it to exponentially increase the energy of a collision while logarithmically reducing the time it takes to get to my destination. I’m not going to double my kinetic energy so I can save 15 seconds on my trip.
…wait, I think I misunderstood the question
85mph is the U.S. speed limit. I wouldn’t go above that
Good she go as fast as 240km/h or even more just by crossing into neighboring Germany
Marrying on the first date is too fast.
Good thing they haven’t made a whole reality tv franchise about that idea!
As long as you don’t give off overly attached girlfriend meme vibes.
So did you go out with PugJesus or SatansMaggotyCumFart in the end?
i like how on lemmy there are people whom most of us recognize
on a smallish network like this, the active people are quite notable
I’ve bought my friends meals and given food in charity (I don’t cook that well), I don’t consider that “too fast”, that’s just regular prosociality. You already fucked him, that’s the fast part, so idk how much “faster” you can go, lol.
My wife moved in with me in the like week 2 of dating, been 11 years now, roll with it
Yeah, we moved in together after 3 months, bought a house in 12, and baby in 24. Both in our 30s with steady careers and able to communicate so whilst it was relatively fast it never felt like there was something going unsaid.
How did it go with him going to work?
Did he just leave you there or did he tell you to stay?
As other users are pointing out it’s definitely too fast for most relationships but like, do you want what most relationships have and do that or do you want to do what feels right?
Depending on how the situation went in the morning then getting home to a “wife” it’s chicken noodle soup sounds AMAZING. It could also sound awful to him but at least you will know that maybe you aren’t on the same page.
You said going with the flow has turned out amazing, I say keep going and see where it goes. Maybe it leads to nowhere except some embarrassment, maybe it leads to something truly special. I’d rather have a chance at that
Good luck and keep me posted :)
He told me I can stay as long as I want and to make myself comfortable. He woke up and left early for work, and I wasn’t about to leave just as early since I’m not bound by any schedule, lol. He hasn’t been able to make any meaningful friends since coming here, as Swiss people tend to prefer their old, long-term friendships and keep to themselves, so he really enjoys the company.
If you want to stay, stay You could also send him a message hinting you were thinking of staying and see how he responds But I guess it might be too late (I hope you stayed)
Hi from Switzerland! (Non Swiss too tho)
Can’t answer this without a better story and some history for both of you.
The boiler plate answer here is too fast…but there’s no correct answer.
