Folks, I have finally figured it out.

Have a baby.

Since having a baby a week ago, all of a sudden everyone is willing to install a decent messaging app in order to receive pics of the baby.

We explained that we weren’t ready for images of our child to end up in the wrong hands via non-private apps. Another thing was telling them that the one single friend who had already got on board with this had already been recieving pics…

It’s been a conversation starter for many and I think seeing privacy from the point of view of a newborn has helped our family and friends understand it a bit more easily. Plus they’ve had to put up with it if they want any photos, so they will see it working firsthand.

So, if you want to have a baby, know that it can be a wonderful opportunity to help loved ones communicate more privately.

It also increases the sum total of love, community and compassion in the world and in your own life but that’s a conversation for another community :)

Edit: If anyone has good tips on how to share a little one’s journey more privately with those that care about them, please post them in the discussion.

  • poVoq@slrpnk.net
    2511·
    9 months ago

    Wait, who other than the grandparents actually wants to see the baby pictures? In my experience it is insufferable new parents that want to show their baby pictures to everyone and you have to pretend to like it to be polite. Maybe others just agreed to using another messenger just so they could ignore it better?

    • CaptDust@sh.itjust.works
      17·
      9 months ago

      Depends on the baby, I liked seeing my nieces and nephews growing up. Random coworker baby pics though, they get one pic to announce them, then unsubscribe.

    • Paddzr@lemmy.world
      194·
      9 months ago

      I know it’s a hard concept… But people can be nice and genuinely happy for them?

      Your basement is likely insufferable too.

      • poVoq@slrpnk.net
        82·
        9 months ago

        I am genuinely happy for them, but that still doesn’t mean I need or want to see random baby pictures twice a day.

        P.S.: my basement is fine, thanks 😅

      • Churbleyimyam@lemm.eeOP
        8·
        9 months ago

        Yeah they’re amazing! They definitely come with some intense needs but I think the world would be a better place if we all spent more time around babies.

    • Churbleyimyam@lemm.eeOP
      12·
      9 months ago

      Haha. Yes, grandparents but also aunties and uncles and close friends. I’ve noticed that especially friends who have their own kids have been really keen. It’s mostly been my girlfriend’s female friends but my own two best friends (male) have been keen because they’ve been by my side in the journey and have been excited and wishing us well. For us it’s not about spamming all of our contacts, just sharing with people who are close.

      • BearOfaTime@lemm.ee
        41·
        9 months ago

        To be fair, let’s say 90%+ chicks like baby pics. There are some who are indifferent.

        Still, even that number plus the number of men who are gracious, kind and actually care, we’re still looking at an overwhelming majority.

        • ChexMax@lemmy.world
          2·
          9 months ago

          I think if we socialized men to not deny their biology and actually be around babies the numbers would be a lot closer to 60 or 70 percent of both genders love being around a little squish baby. Plenty of people don’t like it in both genders, but in my experience most men like a lot of domestic stuff if they’re not specifically trained not to.