Well, I have a parent that is right on the edge of dislike that I keep them in my life for the sake of family harmony. But I consider them to be a bad person that makes me extremely uncomfortable to be around.

If you had something similar, and they died, how did it make you feel?

I’m purely curious because right now I feel like I would happy that they are out of my life, but sad for my family, but overall happier. And I want to understand if I’m being naive about the hardship of losing a parent, even a disliked one.

  • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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    16 days ago

    My parents are in their 80’s and while I can say I love some version of them, they didn’t save anything for retirement, and therefore, are a massive burden on me and my siblings.

    In my mind the versions of them I loved are already gone. I’m just doing what I can to help them live well until they pass away because if the roles were reversed, I’d want them to do the same for me.

    • Drusas@fedia.io
      3·
      16 days ago

      I think that is or is soon going to be a lot of us. Especially as end of life care leads to people selling their real estate rather than giving it to their children.