Like @DarkKronicle@beehaw.org, I’m using Mealie and it works for my needs. Another popular recipe app is Tandoor but last time I looked the setup was more complicated that what I wanted to get into.
For RSS, I’m using Miniflux which is very lightweight but has nice features.
Here’s a whole list of selfhosted apps: https://github.com/awesome-selfhosted/awesome-selfhosted. I would recommend looking for apps that solve a problem you’re having vs. installing everything that looks interesting.
I don’t agree that Tailscale is overkill, it’s very quick to set up and allows me to connect with all of my services no matter where I am. I often check the ingredients for a recipe on Mealie while I’m at the grocery store for instance.
Here’s a few other communities to check out related to self hosting:
These two appear to be the most active and have some similar commits:
https://github.com/nrndda/cantata
https://github.com/fenuks/cantata