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  • I do unterstand your feelings, the question implies that you Were involved with someone else than your boyfriend and its not nice to think about that in your situation especially since hormons make us more emotional during pregnancy (at least me).

    As most people stated here already it is however a valid concern of your boyfriends parents. Cheating is very common, more common than I would have thought at 18! Doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

    Anyways I wanted to add a different perspective. The one of your child. If you don’t do the test, but your bf family has a tiny bit of doubt it might be that at some point in your child’s life it might hear about that doubt / just suspect it from behavior. And that can do unbelievable harm to a child. So its better to have that proof and then everyone can be happy about the new family member.




  • Point 1 is only true for the bavarian countryside far away from big cities though. Munich itself is actually quite progressive. Not as left as Berlin for sure, but as a berliner in munich i was quite surprised that my prejudices about conservative bavarians didnt hold at all.

    Munich has a lot oft industry and company headquaters. Most people have a good job and a gold life. Thats something i felt in the City as well. The people have fewer problems than in other areas, enjoy Cafés and bars , and speak less about politics than in other german cities (although they do habe opinions and vote). In the one Hand i like this athomsphere of people enjoying their lives in the other Hand i find it quite strange not to speak about the daily events.

    Also poverty does exists its just not as visible AS in other german cities. People themselves Seen to hide it as long aS they can. And the real poor people linke homless people are checked by the bavarian police so offen that they avoid the City center. Of course the City looks “nicer” this way but to me thats just in humann. Many people dont know this and are shocked when they come to other german cities with More homeless people visible. They tend to say " wow munich is much better - no poor people". Thats not true. they exist but are forced to hide vor go to other cities.






  • The Futurium is a quite cool new Museum. Located close to the Hauptbahnhof (Berlin Main Station). Its for free. Its a Museum about the future with lots of interesting stuff on for example future of medicine, future of transport and so on. It has a positive view on many topics even though it of course adresses also the problems. Just super cool and very interactive.


  • In my experience all the good arguments in governments that change, big companies making money etc are still too abstract to people.

    But i have found one argument that at least made women and older men with daughters think about it. Stalking. With reverse image search and stupid people finder apps and ai that can estimate how you look now based on an old picture and vice versa, stalking got soooo easy. Anyone can just secretely take a picture of a girl they find interesting in public and find her social media profile and see where she usually hangs out etc. (Of course also all other genders get stalked - this is just the most known example).


  • I dont agree with the people saying its impossible. It does take time and efford but its not impossible. I know a couple, together for about 10years at the time where he not only cheated but then even broke up to be with the other woman. It didnt last long. After about 2 years the original couple came back together - it was a slow transition of meeting because of the Child, meeting AS friends etc. It was very hard in the beginning. They did a therapy for couples which helped a lot, but still sometimes she would make a comment on the matter even a few years later. But It got less with time. By now its gone. They are one of the happiest couples i know with more trust in each other than i have Seen in other couples. Because it was an active decision to stay AS a couple. Because they had to speak a lot about their relationship after that event and went on doing so, what many couples stop with time. And the therapy surely hepled with that process. I dont know how Bad your case is. If a therapy is needed and how openly you discuss your feelings. But try to signal your wife how much this event showed you that you want her - of course only if the case. And decide together how you can fix things that lead to this event. Maybe do one date per week Where you take time AS a couple. Or one hour per week to discuss how your relationship is going what you liked what you didnt like in the Past week. Sometimes it will only take 10min and sometimes you’ll need the hour… I think something in that direction could help a lot and just proposing it shows your wife you want to change.







  • Another German here. I love France. And arte is the best TV Programm. :) just that you don’t feel alone.

    My theory: Many germans just had really Bad French teachers and honestly its not very easy to learn the spelling, so since their youth they are a bit mad at France. I personally know 3 people that had to redo a year because of bad french grades. Nothing More behind it usually. I noticed its the same with French people that had to learn German. Some love Germany now , the rest projecs their dislike of learning the language on the whole country. However, at least in my bubble, people that like France are in majority. Even those that don’t speak french love to visit.


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    Leguano is very comfy and super quality, but comes with a high price.

    Groundies are comfy and look really cool - people don’t notice its barefood shoes and the price is reasonable.

    Ballop are the most comfortable shoes I ever had, but for my taste they are not as beautiful as leguanos and groundies. Price is reasonable.