Well I am happy, but would be happier if the public transit here was good. Because the city would be so much better.
More money would make me less anxious but I have a reasonable lifestyle already (only took a half century and 4 wage earners in the household) and am satisfied with it.
It seems at least possible that her intentions are good, and you don’t want to blow up your job, right? Have you told her directly that you like her and like your job, but the lunch-and-interrogation is not your idea of a break, and you do need a break? With a smile, do not feel like you are doing anything wrong. You are not doing anything wrong.
I am surprised nobody else is sitting these out ever, if every other person in your group looks forward to the lunches and they are part of what she considers the culture of the department, maybe it’s important to her. But I have never worked anywhere where it was a requirement like that.
It depends. My mom wanted to break even when she died. Not leave us money, and not cost us money, but did rely on my sister to help out, not financially much but with some care. I sent maybe $500 total towards that, so pretty close to what she wanted.
Husband’s parents are loaded, but if his mom needed care I’d help because she has been so nice to me, I was not close with my mom but have been lucky in mothers in law. I don’t expect anything from them, think their plan is to skip us and leave some to the grandkids, but in any case they are rich-ish and do not expect anything in the way of financial help.
I took time off to raise my kids, so don’t expect to retire but no, I would hope to not need financial help and don’t expect it from them. It’s a win if they don’t need any financial help from me!
In your case, if your parents sacrificed their future income to raise you, I understand why you feel you owe them, but I don’t really think that way, you don’t accrue debt for being raised. It’s more like whoever ends up best off helps the others, so my most successful daughter wants to be “the rich uncle” who can do that, she helps out her sisters, and my hope is like my mom’s - to not burden them and to die with close to nothing.
So sorry, but glad you got to hold him through the end.
My usual breakfast is cafe con leche.
My favorite breakfast is a big fryup, eggs, good homemade sourdough toast, home fries, and spicy refried beans. There isn’t one best food in there, it needs all of them.
Runner-up grits with butter, cheese, and nutritional yeast, topped with a fried egg.
Average 0.16 USD per kwh if I divide the whole bill by the KWH.
Our bill is pretty high but literally everything runs on electricity in the house, the cooking, water heating, A/C, we have clothes washer & dryer, there is no gas line.
I would be happier if plastic surgery, instead of always being aimed at making people closer to all the same, was used to make us look different. Elf ears, horns, tails, big noses, different shaped faces, neanderthal brow lines, creative changes. That is the style I’d like to see happen.
Also, since I’m in Florida, fancy parasols.
That sounds pretty good to me. Though I would prefer crushed peppers, jalapenos, or Salsa Yucateca, Tabasco is a little too sour. Why do you care? Are you literally gatekeeping her pizza?
Dunno, I think a fake radio show inside a podcast is media inside a different media. But yes it’s the whole thing, and a favorite.
Yes, with a fictional Public Radio host, his show is the podcast.
I agree with knives, love them.
Natural fermentation is a technology I love, that is pretty ancient. The way I make bread, it’s leavened the same way as almost 15,000 years ago. Beer is like that too - it’s commercial now but you can achieve it at home without the industrial tech.
Windshield wipers are so clever.
I have a stepdaughter with schizophrenia, she trusts me more than her mom or dad since I wasn’t part of her upbringing, so I’ve been able to do things like bring her to the emergency room when she thought everyone else was out to get her. But at some points help is not helpful - if your help is only hurting you and not doing much for him, you cannot fix that by trying to help. Wrecking your own life is irresponsible to yourself and to your wife.
I do know it’s hard. Especially here where there is not much mental health funding and they end up in jail (though stepdaughter was calmer in jail for some reason, that is not a good answer). If he is stuck on violence, and crazy so he can’t see his own responsibility in it, just keeps blaming everyone else, you can’t fix that.
Not sure but these are on repeat at my house:
Lord of the Rings trilogy
Hot Fuzz
Into the Spiderverse
Pride and Prejudice, the one with Keira Knightly
So one of them but not sure which.
Have you learned nothing from science fiction stories? I would not change anything.
Wait, you are saying we can have comprehensive environmental restoration and an honest fight vs. climate change if one of the other two is given up?
Gun control for sure for me. Enforce the laws we have, though.
Maybe, actually, my first punk rock show at 14. I still had trouble but pretty sure getting into that scene diverted me from severe alienation in school, and having older people as friends cushioned the blow when my dad died. I think without that I wouldn’t have lived this long.
But as an adult? Having kids for sure. Because I needed more money, went back to school, got a real job, and because my first pregnancy did so much more to heal my lingering anorexia than anything else - feeling like my body was real, and useful, and beautiful, I dunno how to explain it (and I’m sure this could go in the opposite direction for some) but for me it was quite healing. That set me on a different path and again, without them I probably wouldn’t have lived this long.
The last pivot point in my life was my breakup with my ex, that was a fast track to prosperity in a two income household with a guy who loves me for me. I wholeheartedly hope this trajectory holds.
So three inflection points I see.
This might fit better in no stupid questions.
Gender roles no, it’s not important to assign certain behavioral expectations based on biological sex.
Gender perception? That’s a different question. Are you a man? What do you do to let people know you are a man, and do you care if they mistake you for a woman?
Are you Hezbollah and did you buy a phone from Israel? Did you piss off the mob, or a government? Then maybe. Otherwise, unlikely. Phones have been known to catch fire, though.