I have absolutely zero energy. Even if I love climbing and would like to start again, I rather just scroll through youtube or stare at a wall. I noticed that I personally have zero problems in my life but all the people around me have problems that I feel like those are my problems too.

You know what the problem is. There are things you could do which make you feel better, and you’re not doing them.

Other people aren’t you. Don’t expect them to be.
Other people have freedom. They’re free to fail as well as succeed.
The fact they are failing is sad. And that will make you sad, if you hold on to it. But they aren’t you. They are free to fail. And you can’t stop them from making the mistakes, you can only support them in improving and recovering once they learn, if they ever do, that those mistakes must be avoided.

A Buddhist monk was talking to a layperson who was seeking comfort. The layperson had experienced grief, as all people do. The monk said: “how heavy is that boulder?” And the layperson said, too heavy to lift. The monk replied: “it weighs nothing if you don’t pick it up.”

If you don’t want to be around an alcoholic, you might have to eventually cut contact with your friend. Not all alcoholics get better.
If your wife is someone you don’t want to have kids with, as you don’t trust her to be able to succeed in work, you might have to eventually consider ending that relationship. Not all people can secure suitable employment for their families.

I have no one to go to and be “happy”.

The treasure is in your own mind. No one else can despoil until unless you let them. Be the person that makes you happy.

It’s more or less a philosophy of rolling with punches.

Maintaining the status quo until everyone dies is, I guess, some kind of response.

The gradual loss of the childful optimism and joy.

When I was a (hungry and impoverished) child, I was optimistic that hunger and poverty could be solved.

As an adult who teaches the study of humans, it is quite clear that the solutions are convenient enough, so will not be attempted.

Hungry children it is.

Most people want social media to read and talk about the mundane things that are interesting to them (like sports, or their hobbies, or some new cool bar they want to go on, or some interesting places to travel)…

Hey, more evidence that most people aren’t worth talking to, nice.

I’m not interested in what content you are interested in.

Yes, this is the kind of thing a terminally boring person says.

Interesting that you think that I may be interested in Threads content.

I really don’t agree with your last sentence though. “Fixing” problems before they arise is exactly why we, particularly governments, already spend millions on the promotion of wellbeing and heathy lifestyles in order to prevent health issues in later life.

I’m pretty familiar with the differences in life expectancy statistics caused by health inequality. I’m not sure that you can truly promote wellbeing in a world where people are treated like they’re vastly less valuable.

Because being hypnotised prophylactically can easily come across as creepy and controlling, even if it’s well-meaning.

Let’s give an example that is both well-meaning and at least a little overbearing: “Hey, let’s hypnotise our kids to really want to try hard at school.”

Freedom means the freedom to be unhappy, make mistakes, and differ from others, as well as the freedom to be happy, succeed, and conform.

If you want prophylactic hypnosis, maybe try self-hypnosis? However, from everything I have read and tried myself in that field, it’s still used reactively. You realise your thoughts and behaviour cause a problem (e.g. over indulging in some vice), and you try to hypnotise yourself to not. Imagining potential problems and trying to fix them ahead of time could be based on poor assumptions, and lead to you trying to change your thoughts and behaviours in maladaptive ways. Fixing a problem before diagnosing it doesn’t make much sense to me.

So, a visible difference that some other people react to with prejudice is not like racism. Got it.

You ask: “Why assume they react to your VISIBLE ETHNIC DIFFERENCES in particular?”

1. The VISIBLE DIFFERENCES are visible.
2. People have made fun of me for having those VISIBLE DIFFERENCES before.
3. I can see facial expressions when people perceive THOSE VISIBLE DIFFERENCES, and notice features of judgemental reaction in their speech and behaviour after.

I’m sure you can comprehend why removing the controversial topic of ethnic differences [controversial because e.g. some people want to claim racism is does not happen any longer, or is not of any importance when it does because ‘it’s illegal to discriminate’] to replace it with another visible difference made it a suitable metaphor. I’m sure that you knew this, in fact, when you called it ‘dumb’.
Your annoyance is, therefore, possibly more at me saying that a woman is allowed to believe she is being targeted for racist reasons, and that such a woman should be listened to fairly. Feel free to clarify on that, if you wish. As for me, I logically believe that racism exists, as I have seen it. And that people can intuit when it is happening, as I have seen it. And that other people can disagree with it, because they profit from racism being ignored, as I have seen it.

It’s about as likely as someone starting and ending all of their writing with ellipses, with some of those ellipses being incomplete.

I have a birthmark that reads ‘VAGINA’ on my face.
Some people treat me differently from the moment I meet them.
I say, “I think that those people are reacting to my birthmark.”

You ask: “Why assume they react to your VAGINA birthmark in particular?”

1. The VAGINA birthmark is visible.
2. People have made fun of me for having it before.
3. I can see facial expressions when people perceive it, and notice features of judgemental reaction in their speech and behaviour after.

Now, apply this to OP’s wife. OP says this about her:

If I hadn’t seen the blatant discrimination she’s faced job hunting, I’d be more skeptical. She’s Filipino, but that’s “Mexican” to many. When I say blatant, I mean to say heads would roll if we had some of this on camera. She’s mostly unhurt by these things, just figures that’s the way of the world. But damn. One lady asked if she was Asian and was visibly appalled. Another said she would have to attend their church, and barely stopped short of asking her to renounce Catholicism. There’s much more I’m not remembering ATM.

I’m heavily autistic. I’ve figured this all out logically, as a person who has experience discrimination myself. It wasn’t easy, because I don’t grasp social cues natively. I thought I’d been doing something wrong for a long long time when people initially appraised me as ‘other’, but it turned out they were just being judgemental assholes. If you’re not heavily autistic, I believe it should be easier for you to figure all this out, right?

I don’t know if they’re all bastards

As it’s not likely that all people who work in HR have unmarried parents, it’s probably less literal language that labels them as belonging to a group of people who would harm you if it suited their interests.

All the HR people I’ve known who were not like that eventually left their job, because what they were asked to do went beyond their moral boundaries. Leaving HR to be the ones who were, indeed, those who didn’t feel such qualms.

No one else at this company requested such. Was he way out of line?

People who experience discrimination develop a sense for when someone is othering them. It’s not always correct, because it involves intuition, and you can misread people. But will still develop a sense for it.

Now, apply this to OP’s wife. OP says this about her:

If I hadn’t seen the blatant discrimination she’s faced job hunting, I’d be more skeptical. She’s Filipino, but that’s “Mexican” to many. When I say blatant, I mean to say heads would roll if we had some of this on camera. She’s mostly unhurt by these things, just figures that’s the way of the world. But damn. One lady asked if she was Asian and was visibly appalled. Another said she would have to attend their church, and barely stopped short of asking her to renounce Catholicism. There’s much more I’m not remembering ATM.

I initially read it as someone saying ‘Arab’ in a stereotypical Southern drawl, and I was confused.

I was a little bent when she told me he had asked her to remove her blur filter “to have a look at her working environment, make sure it’s not cluttered” (something along those lines).

Creepy.

All HR Are Bastards?

I temporarily trusted the two domains that started with librespeed and it worked.

What the other 17 are for, I can’t say.

Edit: looking at the server list, many of them match up with the serves you can select.

I wonder if Bing over- or under-estimates the wealth of Bill Gates.

Methinks perhaps the International Business Times may value capitalism over quality of life.

I think capitalism tends to be valued over life in general.

I’m a simple person. I take people at their word, until it doesn’t work, and then I hate them.