Thanks, you put into clear words a lot of my jumbled thoughts and expanded on it. It’s a tough choice for the Beehaw admins with pros and cons either way; a tug-of-war on whether the community is strong enough / has what they need to handle this far from perfect world. It would be a loss from the wider Lemmy community, but based on a few outspoken comments we can see there are also people with a “good riddance” stance.

I think Beehaw needs to do what’s best for them first, as an administrative team and for their core community. When they’re stronger, I’m sure we’ll feel and see their presence on the wider stage. After all, time is intrinsic to progress.

Specifically, we chose Lemmy as the software that we would use to launch our endeavor to attempt a safe space for marginalized persons online.

As a relatively non-marginalized person, I think it’s important to focus on this. Beehaw has grown beyond the marginalized group. If Beehaw were to leave Lemmy, the non-marginalized would be fine and can switch to different instances. The marginalized would follow Beehaw for that safe space.

It comes down to the purpose of a safe space. There’s the group of people that want to avoid bigots, and there’s the group that want to be a light unto the world, to effect change.

An example of a little bit of positive Beehaw has had outside of their community would be the influence it has had on me. I’ve read posts from the LGBT+ community that enlightened me to things I’ve never thought about. But I’m also not a bigot, just naive.

The negative is what has prompted these discussions: the bigoted trolls. It’s just not sustainable for the small Beehaw team to moderate everything.

My view is that it’s of utmost importance to maintain the safe space for the marginalized. Of those marginalized who want to connect outside the safe space, they are free to engage in Lemmy/Reddit and spread their light.

What would I do? I would find a new instance and continue to be receptive to LBGT+ discussions that come up on Lemmy. I don’t feel right asking Beehaw to stay on Lemmy at the cost of keeping marginalized people safe from bigots. They deserve to be able to talk about things without having bigots come at them; to be able to laugh and cry and vent and have others understand—especially with the US Right becoming more brazen in their persecution of this community.

Just my 2 cents.

Ubuntu 9.04. Jaunty Jackelope in 2009. Started by dual booting my Windows laptop. XP mainstream support ended that year, and I didn’t want to upgrade to Vista, nor could my laptop handle 7.

Life, uh, finds a way.

I would try it! Made me think of Taiwanese xiao long bao and buns that can be made as entrees (meats and veggies) or as desserts (taro, chocolate, red bean, etc).

Kim Jong Un is actually singing Katy Perry’s “Firework” in his head

I miss eating spicy food. I’ve cut out a lot of it because of the acid reflux it gives me.

In my early 20s I lifted a TV with my back because I didn’t know better. The back pains seem to come back more frequently these days.

I used to play so much tennis. Any injuries now seem to take forever to heal.

I know, it’s pathetic. AT&T holding a steady $40-45/mo while Comcast increases every year.

My area is stuck with the illusion of choice between Comcast cable and AT&T DSL.

That’s wonderful news for Bountiful. Quite a $48m middle finger to these monopolies.

I think it helps when guys can grow comfortable and vulnerable enough to be real with each other. Do you think you’re there yet? If not, it could come off as holier than thou. Take it at an easy pace. If you might remember from your Christian roots, certain—if not all—denominations have a one-on-one discipleship/mentorship thing where you walk through life together. This goes beyond your work relationship, so I don’t know how appropriate it is at work. If anything, it doesn’t even need to be as deep. I experienced some of it in college, both in Christian and non-Christian settings. One of the things I currently respect most about people is the ability to own up for one’s mistakes. And I see you’ve done that in your own life. If you make any mistakes in front of him, I believe it takes strength and humility to acknowledge it, and to correct yourself (whether immediately or later).

Not only model the correct behavior, but also the root of that behavior. What drives you to be that strong, kind person? Why treat and respect others as equals? Why be kind?

Sorry I don’t have any concrete advice. Just things to think about.

I appreciate you, how you’ve changed, and your desire to make a better life and world for those around you.

Today in a restaurant’s restrooms, there was a Winnie the Pooh decoration with a bee and pot of honey. It said, “Bee happy. Bee you.” And my mind added, “Bee-hawesome.”

Thanks for the links!

Is his website in pure HTML? It’s got that 90s nostalgia.

The blog post talks about choosing a side, but the average user doesn’t have the know how or desire to move away from the default enshittifying web. The generation growing up with smartphones are fed targeted advertisements as a steady diet. To be fair, I see the kids just flipping through the obvious ads. But it’s harder to ignore when their favorite influencers are advertising stuff as part of a bit.

And for that reason I think we’re moving rapidly towards that dystopia we see in sci-fi movies and shows, like Wall-E.

The same Chris Christie who allegedly laughed when he was told about the traffic havoc of closing down 2 lanes on the George Washington Bridge?

rock guitar starts

There’s gotta be, it’s too epic not to be filmed for a documentary!

The news has been so terrible, and I read so many sad stories, it’s good to hear something positive. Very happy for you.

Side topic, any plans to watch the Eras tour? It’s filling up my TikTok feed and looks like such a blast.

Yeah, don’t bind yourself to a formal university education in which you have to fulfill requirements and place undue stress on yourself.

Keep your job, and take whatever classes that interest you.

If you’re in the US: I’ve enjoyed community college classes more than D1 university classes because the professors have different goals. At community colleges the professors enjoy teaching. At D1 universities many professors are doing research and are required to teach on the side.

That sounds about right, now that you’re jogging my memory. I have a 2007 a Sony laptop that I eventually wiped and installed Linux. Ran so much better than Windows.

In 2017 I bought a Samsung Galaxy S8 smartphone, which ran circles around my laptop. Coupled with my laptop battery lasting about half an hour, I stopped using it.

I just googled how to rebuild laptop batteries. It never occurred to me it could be done.

Toggle VPN off, tied to my Work focus. One time I logged into work email while connected to a VPN. Freaked out my IT.