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Cake day: December 13th, 2024

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  • As a counterpoint, I’ve been with my partner for 15 years, and we started as a one-night-stand. It’s backwards from how it usually happens, but he was particularly cool so I took him to breakfast the next morning, and then we got to know each other better. We became FWB, broke it off, dated other people, then got back together for real and haven’t quit since.

    Yes, sex can’t be the only reason for love, but you can start there and find mutual interest after.











  • I’m not sure what you’re saying? I think that if you really want to decrease car usage, you need to focus more on interurban transit and let bikes be for last-mile.

    The local metro area is very walkable, low traffic speed, and has (shitty) bike lanes. The outlying areas are two lane highways without shoulders that is much more dangerous to bike than city roads. I tried it once, got run off the road by a semi and nearly went into the blackberry bramble. I was picking gravel out of my skin for days, and haven’t been on a bike since.

    A huge problem I have is that America uses transit for greenwashing and we don’t use it as a service. The only reason I got a car is because the bus comes by five times a day. The last bus home leaves the station at 6pm, so that seriously restricts job opportunities. The local neolibs love to argue that us rural folk are against transit, but ignore that it’s popular enough that the last bus (that hurtles down bumpy 50mph highways) is packed with standing riders and feels super unsafe.

    It’s infuriating that the answer to “I want decent transit” is “pay 2.5x rent to live in the city”.





  • I grew up in red state poverty, moved to the west coast, and people up here genuinely do not understand what it’s like to live somewhere that sees travel as a bougie thing. I talk about how my parents couldn’t afford to send me with my class on the senior trip to europe, the first question that gets asked is why I couldn’t get a job and save up, not understanding I was childcare and housekeeping for my family while the adults worked. It’s not just coming up with the travel costs, it’s also coming up with the money to hire out replacements for the services I provided for free.

    I’m privileged I could test high enough to get into a school that had a senior trip to europe, the public school barely got normal field trips. It’s not hard to understand why the person in OP would assume exchange students have access to a higher quality of life than them, they can clearly already afford to travel.