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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • My oldest is a senior in highschool. From what I have observed, appearance – especially for teenage girls – is less about self expression and more about seeking approval from other girls. Clothing is entirely a status symbol.

    There’s often a few girls who are the “trend setters”, a much larger group of “followers” that basically look like carbon copies of one another, and yet another group that doesn’t follow the latest “trend” because they either can’t afford to or (much less often) don’t care.

    My daughter is obsessed with looks, as are most of her peers. Trying desperately to fit in because she’s not yet mature enough to realize that it doesn’t matter if all the other girls “like” her. It only really matters if she likes herself.

    I’ve told her, only half joking, that she will know a guy is good boyfriend material when he asks her which books she’s read lately.









  • I’m the older brother and have two younger siblings. I love both of them. Even when they piss me off, which fortunately is pretty rare. I have a much closer relationship with my youngest brother. Something that I didn’t realize growing up is that your younger siblings kind of look up to you, even if they don’t know how to say that. If I had known that I probably would have been a little nicer to them.

    As an adult, I try to make sure they know they can come to me if they need help. Sometimes I need help too and I know I can lean on them for support.

    But, there are lots of people who don’t get along with their siblings for one reason or another. If your brother is unhappy, that’s not your fault. If he’s throwing away an opportunity to have a good relationship with you, then he’s a fool.

    Love, not blood, is the thing that makes families and holds them together.