I’m the straightest person. I don’t have a gender, and I’m attracted to all genders. ‘all’ and ‘none’ are by far more opposite each other *than any two specific sexes or genders could ever be.
As an agendered pansexual, the wildest thing to me about the trans/cis divide is actually feeling that strongly about having a preferred gender. I simply can’t fathom caring hard enough to put up a fight about it. I default to “female” because I was AFAB, but if someone calls me by a different pronoun, it’s whatever to me.
Now let me be clear - just because I don’t feel gender for myself, doesn’t mean I can’t respect and support those who do feel strongly about their genders.
Bonus mini-rant
I wish I didn’t have to make an announcement pointing that out. Something changed in the past decade or so, whereby if someone simply states a non-standard experience or quality about themselves, people now assume that they must be “against” the standard experience/quality. It’s frustrating and unconductive to conversation when people assume every comment must be a prelude to an argument. There used to be an assumption that people were conversing in good faith, but lately there’s been a shift. To agree with those different from you is no longer treated as the default, and I find that very troubling.
And as a reference to this comment, this post was fueled by unmedicated ADHD, autism, and cannabis (and a bit of frustration, since I accidentally closed the window after the first time I wrote it, so I had to write it twice.)
I think “agendered” is the best description for me as well and I share your perspective. AMAB and kinda lazy so dude stuff is the default but I can’t internalize the idea of gender dys/euphoria. (Body dysphoria makes sense to me, it seems to me like an entirely different thing than gender presentation which has a huge spectrum and varies wildly across cultures)
I’m the straightest person. I don’t have a gender, and I’m attracted to all genders. ‘all’ and ‘none’ are by far more opposite each other *than any two specific sexes or genders could ever be.
Oh snap, you’re me.
As an agendered pansexual, the wildest thing to me about the trans/cis divide is actually feeling that strongly about having a preferred gender. I simply can’t fathom caring hard enough to put up a fight about it. I default to “female” because I was AFAB, but if someone calls me by a different pronoun, it’s whatever to me.
Now let me be clear - just because I don’t feel gender for myself, doesn’t mean I can’t respect and support those who do feel strongly about their genders.
Bonus mini-rant
I wish I didn’t have to make an announcement pointing that out. Something changed in the past decade or so, whereby if someone simply states a non-standard experience or quality about themselves, people now assume that they must be “against” the standard experience/quality. It’s frustrating and unconductive to conversation when people assume every comment must be a prelude to an argument. There used to be an assumption that people were conversing in good faith, but lately there’s been a shift. To agree with those different from you is no longer treated as the default, and I find that very troubling.
And as a reference to this comment, this post was fueled by unmedicated ADHD, autism, and cannabis (and a bit of frustration, since I accidentally closed the window after the first time I wrote it, so I had to write it twice.)
I think “agendered” is the best description for me as well and I share your perspective. AMAB and kinda lazy so dude stuff is the default but I can’t internalize the idea of gender dys/euphoria. (Body dysphoria makes sense to me, it seems to me like an entirely different thing than gender presentation which has a huge spectrum and varies wildly across cultures)
I feel like, if you can read this, you might be having a stroke… lol
Nah I’m just full of ADHD meds, nicotine and caffeine
Oh, I didnt mean you. I mean all of us lol.
Gotcha! Kinda wanted to justify what fuelled that mess of a sentence haha
It was a good sentence. Ow my brain /lmao