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  • Try to order pickup, if you can go by the restaurant on foot/bike/public transit and physically/mentally can. Not just because of traffic reduction, but also because those delivery apps are usually super predatory and get away with paying sub minimum wage through some legal gaps.

    If deliveries by car can be a small part in making it possible and comfortable for some individual to forgo owning a personal car, it’s still a net plus. A major chunk of the environmental damage a car does is in its production. Taxis are better than individual cars for the same reason. Also, they’re usually not delivering only one meal at a time, like you would if you drove there yourself.




  • Bit of a different take from many of the other comments.

    Relationships don’t have to be the way they are traditionally. You don’t have to be monogamous. You can be in two relationships, one of which is romantic, one of which is a strong friendship with sexual aspects. It’d be under the polyamory umbrella. There’s plenty of potential partners out there who are ok with or would even want this kind of a constellation.

    The very important caveat though: even more so than in any other kind of close relationship, this requires a LOT of communication. You need to clarify with your best friend what kind of a relationship it is that you have. You don’t have to label it, but you have to figure out together what you want from each other and what your boundaries are. The latter includes what kind of relationships you’re ok with the other one having with someone else. Then, when you date someone else, you have to have the same conversations and be open about your other relationship(s). I’d be upfront about the latter, the former can happen over time.

    If none of this sounds like something you’d want, that’s of course perfectly valid. The point stands though that you need to clarify with each other what you want from your relationship and what your boundaries and needs are. This might mean having to change your relationship dynamic.

    Some context: my best friend and I are super close and find each other sexually attractive, but aren’t romantically interested in each other. We’ve talked about that and keep checking in. We’ve done some second base things and cuddled. I now have a partner that’s decidedly monogamous. Now, I might still lightly cuddle with my best friend, but we wouldn’t kiss anymore. Those are all boundaries that had to be talked through.








  • My mum at least asked ‘do you learn about this stuff in school?’, to which i awkwardly said yeah. We did get some pretty good classes on bodies, the biology of reproduction, and contraception. I even remember having a test on contraceptives in biology class.

    Unfortunately, it was very cis-het only. I had to figure out by myself that I should be using protection during sex even if both participants had a vulva.

    As for drugs, it never occurred to my mum that anything other than alcohol and nicotine could be relevant to us. She did well on keeping me from smoking just by telling me about her experience as a smoker and how hard it was to quit. I kept my drinking and weed smoking from her pretty well because even a mention would make her angry. To be fair, as an adult I understand she had some trauma from her mum being an alcoholic.



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    2 months ago

    I just lost my job due to some bigger firm buying the place. I’ll honestly prefer to live at the office (I have one at uni where I’m doing an unpaid thesis) or a friend’s couch again (like I did after a breakup) than move in with family. Everyone’s family dynamic is different.

    That said, you don’t need friends to find roommates. There’s websites and social media groups to find them, usually. Have you considered moving a bit further away, where there’s better job opportunities? Hope things get better for you