Is it normal not to care about your friends, uncle, cousins or anyone? Like, you have friends, but you couldn’t care less about them and don’t value them. If they have kids, you don’t care about their well-being either. Basically could not give less of a fuck about anyone. You don’t care about your friends or family members at all. If they are sick, you don’t care; if they die, you don’t care. Is this normal?
No. I don’t miss people while they are alive - I don’t need to talk to them or see them, I know they are alive, and don’t miss them somehow, yes friends, yes even my parents and siblings and grown kids, I love them but if I know they are ok that seems to be enough.
But when they are sick or hurting I care. I want them happy and healthy and if I can help I want to.
And when they die I miss them, so much.
Not sure what normal is, but no that doesn’t sound normal. How do you feel about your own self? Do you care for your own body and mind?
ADHD here. That might be related to time blindness or something.
I’m exactly like what you describe. Went years without talking to my dad. Not because I was angry, it always felt like I just spoke to him recently and would talk again soon.
It wasn’t until he died that I missed him.
It’s very weird to explain to people. “I dont miss you because my brain doesn’t recognize you’ve been gone for a while. It thinks that talk we had three years ago was a couple days ago”
Yeah my kids tell me I have ADHD, and by the current understanding of it I would agree (when I was growing up it only applied to literally hyperactive kids, I have seen some and it was extreme and disabling, they were wild and screaming, couldn’t stop moving or learn.) and certainly have not a good understanding of time at all. And it’s like I know they are ok, and that is satisfactory, I am happy if they are happy.
lol don’t say “the thing” we all hate that lol
“I had a little brother with adhd, he had such a hard time in school”
Unless he died he still has adhd and it’s not a problem with school is a condition with life long concerns. People just learn to hide it after childhood. Plus many women have adhd as well and it never gets diagnosed. So the “nephew in school” comparison is a little bit frustrating lol
Look into adhd. There’s all kinds of symptoms one could have and it really helps to understand what’s going on inside your mind.
Like the time blindness thing. “Am I a bad person for not missing people” no, it’s just a condition.
Even if you decide to never take medication it helps to know what’s going on.
Edit: and I know you didn’t technically say “the thing” I just like explaining that to people so they don’t accidentally offend someone
Edit: I personally am going thru this weeks episode of “when was the last time I ate something? Jesus… has it been a week!!?” I have severe adhd lol. I was in training videos as a kid. Cocaine makes me sleepy that’s the severity of my adhd lol I’ve used cocaine like some people use melatonin
Oh my gosh when I was younger I absolutely loved to sleep on speed, it felt so good. Caffeine would leave me wired but amphetamine - it’s not that it made me sleepy exactly, but the sleep on speed was so delightful.
And yeah I gained 20 lb when I went to school in England and was fed 3 times a day, I had never eaten like that before. Just when I got hungry and remembered, lol.
Now I mostly just make sure to exercise - I was very active as a teen too but now it really works, if I exhaust my body my mind does settle.
One of us! One of us!
Lol. Yeah sounds like adhd.
I walk a few miles a day to burn off extra energy as well.
It’s not all negative tho. I bet you’re also a quick thinker and an out-of-the-box thinker. When everyone else gets stuck on a project do they come to you for a solution?
Everyone left in my department is amazing actually, so we go to each other because we all think differently, and yes sometimes my do everything different ways all the time approach really pays off. Work seems to think I do a good job but to me it feels more like occasional flashes of brilliance and longer stretches of slower work because I can’t do anything I don’t understand, have to see the whole picture first.
I am worried about OP, he put another post up about is it normal to care only about your romantic partner and no interest at all in anyone else.
Op sounds like they have some trauma they are working thru. They don’t sound violent tho. I hope they get some help
ADHD people work well in groups for the reason you described. Nobody has brilliant ideas all the time. A few bright flashes is all you can ask for.