It reminds me of this tradition. Especially this quote from a modern incident “Successfully counting coup disgraces your opponent. It’s a way of publicly shaming them. We believe that if you are shamed, you must admit defeat.” It makes me wonder how much of the motivation for the incidents is internal consumption. Acting aggresively, but in a carefully crafted way to avoid an escalated response. The message sent internally that the other side restrains themselaee not out of reason, but fear.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_purpose_of_a_system_is_what_it_does

Seeing the world through this lens has been both freeing and disheartening…

It’s been wonderful to find a home here! Hoping for many more cake days for all of us here in this friendly little corner of our beloved blue marble!

You can’t polish a turd; you can roll it in glitter.

This seems pretty sound advice - https://youtube.com/shorts/JhQI06_V6NQ Source: Single/dating for ten years, now married for ten years.

This may be a good place to start. Most states (that I’m aware of) have workforce development programs with both online tools and physical offices with available assistance. For most state governments it is beneficial to retain high skilled and high paid workers as part of their tax base, and provide employment opportunities to low skilled and low experience workers to increase their contribution to the community.

You should be able to find automated notification tools on their web offerings (or even an available api), and their physical locations can be excellent resources for developing soft connections with the proffesional community in your field.

Best of luck in your search!