Yo, wtf, you literally had no control over it! Sure it is frustrating for them - I get irrationally triggered by the sounds of snoring - but it is peak asshole behaviour to then make you feel guilty about it. It’s not even like there are known interventions (like with snoring). They should instead be concerned for you and supporting you to get to the root of it (which benefits you AND them). Please don’t feel guilty about this!!! e: as SaneMartigan says, you can be responsible for it but not be guilty. Taking ownership absolutely does mean recognising what things are out of your control and if your family just expects you to magically investigate every avenue and work it out (without even being concerned for you, wtf) that is really cold.
Yo, wtf, you literally had no control over it! Sure it is frustrating for them - I get irrationally triggered by the sounds of snoring - but it is peak asshole behaviour to then make you feel guilty about it. It’s not even like there are known interventions (like with snoring). They should instead be concerned for you and supporting you to get to the root of it (which benefits you AND them). Please don’t feel guilty about this!!! e: as SaneMartigan says, you can be responsible for it but not be guilty. Taking ownership absolutely does mean recognising what things are out of your control and if your family just expects you to magically investigate every avenue and work it out (without even being concerned for you, wtf) that is really cold.