What’s the most important thing or change you’ve learned/made in the past 5 years.
For me it has to be that vegetarian based meals are not inferior to meat based dishes. I find myself preparing and trying so many interesting and great dishes that I would’ve never considered 10 years ago.
How about you?
Confidence and/or giving no fucks goes a long way. Combine that with unabashed honesty, and you’re good. Just gotta make sure not to be a dick about things.
This ends up rubbing assholes the wrong way, but good people will be drawn to you. If you’re in a toxic environment, you’ll end up kind of ejecting yourself, but you can build a good environs around yourself
I’ve learned that no matter how nice people seem, they can still fuck you over when money is involved.
Invested quite a lot of money and they chose to remove all contact with me after I told them I wouldn’t bail out their debt.
So lesson learned. Absolutely make people accountable for their managerial actions every single day before they throw a business into debt. And get out if they show red flags of fucking up.
If somethings takes less than 5 minutes to do, do it right away. Don’t waste time thinking about when to do it, reminding yourself the whole time, risk forgetting about it, don’t procrastinate about it. Do it right away. You get so much more stuff done and are way less stressed.
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The 80/20 rule… although it is more 90/10 for me.
For example, being full vegan is awfully hard (at the start), but eating vegan 90 percent of the time is actually super easy.
Biking instead of driving most of the time is much easier than telling yourself to cycle every day.
We often treat things as all or nothing… And sure, I’d love to be perfect at all the things I find important, but doing so puts certain things out of reach because it makes me frustrated and give up on good intentions.
Yeah this is definitely a good mentality to become a better person. I’m still struggling a bit with wanting to do everything perfectly, which causes me to stop doing it. But I’ve started getting more success with just telling myself they “anything is better than nothing”.
I used to not really do any sports and eat whatever I felt like. In the past few years I’ve started turning it around by picking up running and trying to eat better. If I would’ve expected perfection in either of those, I would’ve quit within a month. But by being proud of every good decision I make, however small it is, I managed to keep it going and changed my health for the better.
That it’s ok to be alone.
Linux
Can you elaborate?
What exactly do you mean by Linux? I have been using it for a long time and since it doesn’t fit in my “working adulthood” I don’t know how important it would be to me if I learned about it 5 years ago.
I like to use it and even self host some stuff with it though.
I just discovered Linux.
It was not the most important thing for me, but I agree: 15-20 years ago, veg options (and sugarless too btw) sucked. You really had to be committed to the cause to endure them.
We’re not vegetarians, but my daughter has allergy to eggs and milk. We buy cakes, pies, brownies, cookies, etc from a vegan bakery that honestly are delicious - better than most non-vegan equivalents. We all end up eating them, although only she actually “needs” them.
If vegan activists worked more towards kindly creating and showing the world vegan options that are as good as/better than their animal counterparts, it would help their cause MUCH more than pestering people, destroying property and making everyone hate them.
Act on your thoughts and ideas. Especially small stuff like being creative (for fun) or writing a friend, you haven’t had contact with in a while - little effort, but feels nice and motivates you to do more.
Don’t stay at a shitty job just because you’re scared of new things or because you think it’s good pay. Put yourself out there and interview. Some interviews will suck, some job offers will be insultingly low, but eventually you’ll find something better. And guess what? Maybe that one will end sooner than you’d like, but you’re already practiced up and know how to interview and write a resume, so you can just dust yourself off and move on.
Also, if you get a huge pay raise, try to live at the same expense level as the old job. Maybe get a treat here and there, maybe fix that problem in your house or car you’ve been putting off, but don’t blow all the extra money. Save some in case that new job ends and it takes a little longer to find more work than you’d like.
Being kind to others and surrounding yourself with people who are positive and kind to you make miracles for mental health and confidence. Staying positive leads to see everyday life under a different light