I have a 16-year-old son. I’m in my early 30s (had him very young) and a professional footballer. My son also dreams of becoming a successful footballer (he’s been playing since he was 6), but he’s just… not great. He’s good, but not great - and in this extremely competitive industry you need to be at least great in order to even stand a chance. So I told him, as someone who’s been doing this for a very, very long time & is active in this sphere, that he should find another, more attainable dream. He took it as me not believing in him, but I’m just objective and realistic.

  • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works
    1915·
    20 hours ago

    This is a life at stake. Don’t tell this guy to be a pushover to spare a feeling. It’s way WAY worse to fuck a whole life thinking you’ve got a career that your parents know something about when you DONT.

    This is a shitty, entitled take. Some people are good at some things. Some are good at others. Don’t gaslight your kid to think he’s an astronaut and let the world teach a lesson. That makes you a SHIT parent.

    You know who makes 6 figures? A fucking lot of people. Cool, good on you, you’re not a unicorn.

    • lud@lemm.ee
      111·
      19 hours ago

      Life at stake?

      Eh no, not knowing that you should have a backup plan if you want to do stuff like football is far from ruining a whole life.

      Let’s say that they figure out that football is a no go at 25 or something ridiculous like that, what happens? Nothing. They can just do something else, they can even study and get some good education if they want. Switching careers isn’t impossible like you make it out to be. Hell, depending on where you live you might even get paid by the government to get a better education.

      Let the kid do football but encourage them to do other stuff too (like getting a good education).

    • GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
      310·
      19 hours ago

      I see we’re using the big dictionary today. words like gaslight and astronaut. I bet you were even excited to use the word unicorn.

      feel like you cut me down a few notches? put me in my place, did you?

      got news for you, you’re going to need to try a lot harder than that to cut me down.

      your attempt was pathetic tbh. 20 years of mental abuse killed something inside me that makes people like you weak and forgettable.

      I found my strength, can you say the same?